Share I recently came across an article asserting that monogamy is so difficult that many couples may be better off having open marriages, as long as they can agree upon the rules. Am I too mired down in traditional values, or is this idea ludicrous? Is sex outside of marriage not considered an “affair” if your spouse knows about it?The article references the many celebrity affairs that have made recent news. We can’t get caught up in assuming celebrity relationships are like our own. They’re not. It seems that cheating is almost accepted in celebrity circles, despite the pain it causes. So let’s not compare ourselves to celebrities, or lose faith in monogamy just because famous men can’t keep it in their pants.The article proposed polygamy with boundaries will help create a healthy marriage. To me, this is admitting people are not capable of a monogamous relationship. I suppose it could be true. Let’s face it, most men can’t keep it in their pants — famous or not. These rules help by setting boundaries around who each person can hook up with and how much they can do. Still, if my wife was out with another man, I’d sit home alone wondering what she was doing — even if I had the green light to be with someone else. I’d want to be with the woman I love, and no one else. So why allow anyone else in?The article does make a great point about sexuality among married couples. The advice is to be extremely open about what excites you. The article states that you should be “w—-s” with one another. Sex, just like other parts of the marriage, can go through “vanilla” phases. The best way around this is to experiment, and keep an open mind. They say sex is best with the one you love, so why do so many people look outside of marriage for sex? I suppose people mistakenly think they are in love when they get married, or fall out of love after they’ve said “I do.” I would also say that there are monogamous people by nature and others who simply don’t have it in their DNA. I have plenty of married friends, and I’m certain they will remain faithful. So, there are people who can do it. The article harps on the lofty impossible dream of monogamous marriage. But, the idea that an open marriage, even with rules, can be healthy and void of drama seems pretty lofty and impossible to me too.Are we saving marriage by proposing “polygamy rules?” We’re saying “OK, we agree we can’t be faithful, but we love each other so we’ll make it work by allowing each other to be with other people.” That statement seems a little odd to me. We all get urges, but purely physical urges are empty. To me, it should be easy to withstand an empty urge, or take care of it through masturbation.Do you think an open marriage with boundaries would help your marriage? Could you ever been in a union like this?by Rich Santos, Marie Claire Share 46 Views no discussions Share Sharing is caring! Tweet LifestyleRelationships Is Monogamy the Best Policy?. by: – August 13, 2011
Share Regular Season Conference Title on the Line Oct. 26, 2007PENSACOLA, Fla. – West Florida’s men’s and women’s soccer teams will be fighting for a regular season conference title tonight when they take on the Montevallo Falcons at the UWF Sports complex. The 13th ranked women’s soccer team with play first tonight with kickoff scheduled for 5 p.m. and the 3rd ranked men’s team will take on the 17th ranked Falcons following the conclusion of the first fixture.For the women’s team (12-2-0, 7-0-0 GSC) they put their perfect conference record on the line when they battle the Lady Falcons (11-6-0, 6-1-0 GSC) who are currently second in the Gulf South Conference. With a win the Argonauts will clinch a first place bid in the GSC tournament as they search for back-to-back conference championships.The women come into tonight match on an eleven game winning streak and GSC defender of the Courtney Jones has allowed only one goal in conference play this season. It is the second time this season the sophomore goal keeper earned the honor.Dernelle Mascall comes into tonight’s match one goal shy of tying the West Florida single season record of 19, set by Brianna Oeser in 2005. The sophomore striker has two hat tricks and a total of eight goals in the Argonauts last three matches.On the men’s side, both teams come into the match undefeated in conference and the winner of the fixture will be the GSC regular season champion and the top seed for the conference tournament. In 2006, West Florida (14-1-0, 5-0-0 GSC) defeated Montevallo (15-1-1, 5-0-0 GSC) three times in three consecutive weekends. This season the Argonauts have already broken school record with eight straight road victories and 14 overall.Keith Savage remains two assists shy of the tying the West Florida career record in assists. The senior has 23 assist during his tenure with the Argonauts. He is also third is school history with 46 career goals.Fellow senior Jimmy McHenry leads the Argonauts this season in goals (14), assists (9) and points (37). The striker from Tallahassee, Fla. is fifth in West Florida hsitory with 20 career assists, eighth with 25 career goals and seventh with 70 career points.Neither of West Florida’s teams can fall below second place in the conference following tonight’s match and both team have a chance to repeat as regular season conference champions. “Live Stats” will be available on the each team’s home web page by clicking on the logo on the right side tool bar. Print Friendly Version
The Australian Football League (“AFL”) has revealed in an interview with FairFax Media that it is likely to get involved in esports. IEM heads to SydneyThe league has expressed interest in running a tournament at the Etihad Stadium which it gained ownership of back in October and has encouraged AFL clubs to sponsor or create their own esports teams. The interview with FairFax media doesn’t reveal anything concrete but implies that brands in Australia are starting to wake up to the idea of esports. With Intel Extreme Master: Sydney bringing top tier Counter-Strike: Global Offensive to Australia for the first time, interest is likely to increase.Darren Birch, the AFL’s growth, digital and audiences general manager told Fairfax Media in an interview: “Esports is very strong in the millennial area, so for us it is about diverse exposure to that audience. That’s no different to AFLW where we became more relevant to a female audience.He continued: “whether that translates into football is somewhat relevant but also not totally relevant. We want AFL, through esports, to have the ability to generate a broader appeal for clubs and be able to bring more sponsors, revenue and consumption of your brand – whether that’s a live footy event or a live esports event.”Notable esports names to emerge from Australia include Damien “kpii” Chok and Anathan “ana” Pham who both compete in Dota 2. Ana’s rise to the top has been quite remarkable and the youngster has notched two Major titles with Dota record-breakers OG. His team will undoubtedly be favourite heading into this summer’s The International which could house the biggest esports prize-pool ever. Additionally he sits atop the Dota 2 public leaderboards. Esports Insider says: Hopefully the AFL aren’t just teasing and do get involved. I’m sure plenty of players have always wanted to go to Australia so the more competition taking place the better. The Etihad looks a fantastic venue should they host an event there.