26 Sep

Is Monogamy the Best Policy?.

first_img Share I recently came across an article asserting that monogamy is so difficult that many couples may be better off having open marriages, as long as they can agree upon the rules. Am I too mired down in traditional values, or is this idea ludicrous? Is sex outside of marriage not considered an “affair” if your spouse knows about it?The article references the many celebrity affairs that have made recent news. We can’t get caught up in assuming celebrity relationships are like our own. They’re not. It seems that cheating is almost accepted in celebrity circles, despite the pain it causes. So let’s not compare ourselves to celebrities, or lose faith in monogamy just because famous men can’t keep it in their pants.The article proposed polygamy with boundaries will help create a healthy marriage. To me, this is admitting people are not capable of a monogamous relationship. I suppose it could be true. Let’s face it, most men can’t keep it in their pants — famous or not. These rules help by setting boundaries around who each person can hook up with and how much they can do. Still, if my wife was out with another man, I’d sit home alone wondering what she was doing — even if I had the green light to be with someone else. I’d want to be with the woman I love, and no one else. So why allow anyone else in?The article does make a great point about sexuality among married couples. The advice is to be extremely open about what excites you. The article states that you should be “w—-s” with one another. Sex, just like other parts of the marriage, can go through “vanilla” phases. The best way around this is to experiment, and keep an open mind. They say sex is best with the one you love, so why do so many people look outside of marriage for sex? I suppose people mistakenly think they are in love when they get married, or fall out of love after they’ve said “I do.” I would also say that there are monogamous people by nature and others who simply don’t have it in their DNA. I have plenty of married friends, and I’m certain they will remain faithful. So, there are people who can do it. The article harps on the lofty impossible dream of monogamous marriage. But, the idea that an open marriage, even with rules, can be healthy and void of drama seems pretty lofty and impossible to me too.Are we saving marriage by proposing “polygamy rules?” We’re saying “OK, we agree we can’t be faithful, but we love each other so we’ll make it work by allowing each other to be with other people.” That statement seems a little odd to me. We all get urges, but purely physical urges are empty. To me, it should be easy to withstand an empty urge, or take care of it through masturbation.Do you think an open marriage with boundaries would help your marriage? Could you ever been in a union like this?by Rich Santos, Marie Claire Share 46 Views   no discussions Sharecenter_img Sharing is caring! Tweet LifestyleRelationships Is Monogamy the Best Policy?. by: – August 13, 2011last_img read more

26 Sep

Coronavirus: LaLiga not ready to lose £880m

first_imgPresident of the Spanish League Javier Tebas,has hinted that Spanish football risks losing a whooping £880million should the coronavirus pandemic make it impossible to play out the season. European leagues, in conjunction with UEFA, according to him were currently studying three possible scenarios of return starting on May 28, June 6, or June 28. REal Madrid versus Barcelona one of the mouth watering ties of the la liga The first scenario would see LaLiga playing through June and UEFA competitions taking place in July. The second would see LaLiga and European competitions returning on June 6 and being played together until the end of July. In the third scenario LaLiga would restart on June 28 and play through July with European competitions starting in August. He said: ‘Including money from European competition we are talking about Spanish clubs losing approximately 1 billion euros if we don’t get back to playing [this season].Advertisement ‘It would be £265m if we have to play all the games behind closed doors; and £133m playing with fans because of losses already incurred.’ Pushed on how competitions would be finalised if no more games could be played he added: ‘I only think about that in my nightmares. It’s a sterile debate right now. We will only start this debate if we know that we cannot restart the season. None of the big leagues should be thinking about this right now.’ Tebas said the restart would almost definitely be without spectators. Read Also Coronavirus: Chinese football agonises over wage cuts He said: ‘In terms fans in the stadiums, I think it will be very difficult to do that, especially in the first few games back. When we come back it will be behind closed doors and soon we will have definitive protocols for how that will happen.’ FacebookTwitterWhatsAppEmail分享 Loading…last_img read more

11 Jan

Medi-Cal talks fail

first_imgLANCASTER – Antelope Valley Hospital will no longer treat Medi-Cal patients covered by Blue Cross of California after the two sides failed to reach an agreement on a new contract, officials said Monday. Negotiators had extended the contract after it expired in January, but were unable to agree on a new pact, officials said. “They wanted to change the contract to where they shifted the risk from them to us. We are saying we are not interested in taking the risk,” said Les Wong, CEO of the 399-bed hospital. “If costs went up for some reason, they wanted us to pay for it. In the past, it was not a risk to us. We just got paid for the services.” Blue Cross officials disputed Antelope Valley Hospital’s characterization that Blue Cross was exiting the Antelope Valley market in terms of Medi-Cal, which pays for medical services for low-income adults and children. Negotiators for both sides did reach an agreement two weeks ago on Blue Cross’ commercial contract, which includes health-maintenance organizations and preferred-provider organizations. The agreement is for one year, and hospital officials were hopeful an agreement would be reached for an additional two years. Both contracts were set to expire around January but both entities agreed to extend them while talks continued, hospital officials said. Blue Cross of California is a subsidiary of WellPoint Inc., the largest publicly traded commercial health benefits company in terms of membership in the country. [email protected] (661) 267-5744160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! Blue Cross officials said negotiations had gone on with several extensions but the Medi-Cal contract had expired by February because no agreement had been reached. “This is not Blue Cross exiting the market. The contract expired,” Blue Cross spokeswoman Leslie Porras said. “Antelope Valley did not agree on the terms.” Porras said Blue Cross members can continue to receive coverage with the assistance of LA Care, the Los Angeles County administrator for Medi-Cal contracts in the county, which will help people make the transition to a new plan. “Members will not lose coverage automatically, and in some instances will keep their primary care physicians,” Porras said. Porras added that negotiations with Antelope Valley Hospital for the Healthy Families contract, a Medi-Cal contract for children, was continuing. last_img read more

6 Jan

Gor Youth, Mukumu set up Chapa Dimba Na Safaricom semis

first_img0Shares0000Two Gor Mahia Youth FC players (from Left) Otieno Selassie and Chris Alpher celebrate after scoring a goal during the Safaricom Chapa Dimba at Kakamega High. Photo/GERALD ANDERSONKAKAMEGA, Kenya, Mar 22 – Gor Mahia Youth will take on Mukumu Boys in a mouth-watering semi final of the Chapa Dimba Na Safaricom after the junior K’Ogalo thrashed Al-Hayat from North Eastern 4-0 in the quarters.In the other semi final, Ombek Red Devis from Nyanza will battle it out with Kapenguria Heroes from West Pokot. Euronut player scoring a penalty against Ombek Red Devils. Photo/GERALD ANDERSONTo reach the last four, Kapenguria Heroes bundled out Mwingi Juniors from Eastern 4-1 while Ombek survived scare to edge out Euronut from Central 5-4 on post-match penalties.The Boys semis will be played on Saturday at the Bukhungu StadiumMukumu Boys celebrating after winning 3-1 against Shimba Hills from Coast. Photo/GERALD ANDERSONTo enter the last four, Mukumu from Western spanked Shimba Hills from Coast 3-1to set up an eagerly awaited semi final against favourites Gor Youth.Mukumu found their goals through skipper Alvin Mangeni in the 13th minute who opened the scoring with a fine finish from a tight left angle before Leonard Kasembeli doubled the scores in the 25th minute to enable the Western team lead 2-0 at the break.On resumption, Mukumu, enjoying a home crowd, added a third goal through Brian Chala who smashed home from a close range.Bakari Kishombo scored the consolation for Shimba Hills.Mukumu Boys captain Alvin Mangeni in action during their quarterfinal match against Shimba Hills from Coast. Photo/GERALD ANDERSONIn the Gor game, the K’Ogalo juniors finished with 10 men after one of their player was handed a second yellow card.Mathew Mwendwa broke the deadlock for Gor on the quarter-hour mark before Otieno Selassie netted a brace in a span of two minutes in the 40th and 42nd to send Gor Youth 3-0 up at half time.Dickson Omwenga competed the rout in the 62nd minute.0Shares0000(Visited 1 times, 1 visits today)last_img read more